Have you always had bad luck with a certain girl? Here's your chance to get her!
Steps
- Become friends with the desired girl. It is very important that she knows who you are before you even take a step at asking her out.
- Be polite. This will work especially if she is a romantic. (At school) Offer to hold her books while she is opening her locker. If you are already holding books of your own, it will make the offer seem even more sweet by going out of your way to help her. Also, hold doors open for her (It really works!)
- Be very nice whenever she is around you.
- Be nice to her friends. Her friends have a huge influence on who she will date. Get to know her friends so they are on your side.
- If she invites you anywhere, go. Be loyal, but don't be a little lost puppy. If you already have plans, don't break them for her. Promise you will make it up to her, and take her out another time. She will never realize how much she misses you if you are always around!
- Eventually, she should start to let you know very intimate things about her. (Family, friends, personal issues, etc.) That is when you know that she is beginning to really trust you.
- Don't say something stupid or immature. If something isn't funny and is meant as a joke, don't be stupid. It will make you look bad in front of her.
- Avoid subjects which may be offensive to the girl in question. For instance politics, discrimination in the workplace, vegetarianism and religion should probably all be avoided for the time being. Also, if the object of your affections happen to have a contentious or opposing position, keep an open mind and if all else fails be non-committal.
- Be an active listener. Show her that you are someone that she can converse with and get along with. For instance, if she mentions a favorite band/ book/ movie, check it out, you'll have a common interest to discuss in the future. Girls are impressed by guys who make an effort not just to listen, but to show interest and remember details.
- Finally, take the plunge and ask her out on a date! Never, ever ask her out online - texting/over the phone goes with online! It shows lack of confidence and she most likely would want you to ask her out in person. You are now friends, so finding a chance to ask her should not be a problem!
Tips
- Try this in your social group or with people who are like you
- When you're ready, try someone new and different.
- Be true to yourself.
- Smile at her.
- Be Smart. Let her get to know you.
- A girl likes it when you're open and honest. Be yourself!
- Some girls hate when you're shy, but not all girls. If the girl you like isn't very shy, you shouldn't be either. Act confident (though not cocky) and speak up!
- Hang out with her, but not too much. Hang out, don't stalk.
- Keep good hygiene and your chances of success will increase dramatically!
- Look in her eyes; by looking at one eye and then at the other one -- changing every so often -- but do not stare at her chest or at her body! This way of looking at her shows her that you respect her and like her as a person.
- Talk, don't just keep staring in her eyes!
- Compliment her- her eyes, smile, hair, etc. BUT don't be a creeper and compliment her butt or boobs-- any girl who likes that isn't worth your time.
- Make sure that she:
- Will talk to you nicely
- She teases you at times
- Is kind of friendly --
- If so then she is ready enough for you to ask her out...
Warnings
- Don't ignore her, be mean, bully her, be gross, or overdo your flirting.
- Don't bring other girls around even if you are just friends-it will make her insecure about your 'situation'
- Don't talk about previous relationships (or hook ups) too soon
- Don't brag! Whatever you do, it will make her like you less. Even if you feel it is necessary.
- Don't force it; if you feel like there's no connection or energy when you talk, then she's probably not a great match.
- Don't swear. If they don't have a problem with it, then use swearing playfully. If she does have a problem with swearing, then don't swear.
- Be authentic. Always tell the truth about your desires, values, etc. This commands respect, where as walking on egg shells makes people uncomfortable.
- Don't try to make fun of her and assume she'll like you. It never works.
- Don't be mean about other people.
- Don't be creepy!
- Don't say that you've lost your job.
- Don't spend more money on a girl than you should.
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